Kindling the Fire at Home & in the Community


Dark Moon: Heart’s Desire

Last night we met for teaching circle where we continued our History of Witchcraft series. This time we discussed the Inquisition & The Malleus Maleficarum. Afterwards we gathered in the circle for our New Moon ritual. I was glad that Rowan prepared a New Moon ritual because the topic for teaching circle was a bit heavy and it was nice to ground & center after what seemed to be an emotional topic for me. I caught myself more than once feeling teary eyed and a bit “dirty”. You know, like I had been walking around in a dusty, windy place and had been perspiring a bit… the dust and grime of that topic seemed to stick to me. I was happy to wash it all off with the New Moon ritual.

What is your hearts most cherished desire? 

That was the focus of our New Moon meditation last night & I thought “That’s simple.” when it was asked of me. We were instructed to write it in the New Moon journals we started in January this year. Even though I was leading the ritual with Rowan, I wanted to participate in the meditation… and so I wrote down “To become a mother, whether by pregnancy or by adoption. That’s my hearts most cherished desire.”

In my former life, when I was married, I tried for several years unsuccessfully to achieve a pregnancy. I underwent extensive infertility treatment, had procedures that determined my fallopian tubes were not blocked, D&C’s to ensure a viable endometrium for the egg to implant to & took Clomid several times. While living abroad I even consulted a fertility doctor regarding IVF and IUI. To this day, I have never been pregnant. My hope is that with the help of modern medicine and a lot of “practice”, that in the future I may get to experience what pregnancy feels like. The odds are stacked against me because of my age (I’m going to be 34 this year) & PCOS is a formidable nemesis, but I’m determined to at least try and see what happens. With a committed & compassionate partner, I’m hoping that when the time is right, all of our determination & “practicing” will pay off. If that’s not in my future, Jay & I have discussed adoption. It’s something I’m very much interested in. I suppose only time will tell. For now, I put my heart’s desire out into the universe and hope to help it manifest someday in the relatively near future.

Music seems to be a focal point of our rituals. It makes sense to me, as I’m a complete music junkie. Fortunately many of the members of our circle are as well. So it seems we always have music to set the mood/tone of ritual. Last night we played the song “Cauldron of Changes” after we finished our meditation. If you aren’t familiar with it, click on that link and listen to it. It’s been one of my favorites for awhile. Catchy little tune. It seemed to help me visualize sending my heart’s desire out into the universe. I imagined that my hearts desire was a bird in my hand… as the music started to reach it’s peak I nudged my little bird to fly away by lifting my hands and after a good nudge it flew, climbing higher until it was so high in the sky that I could no longer see it.

In the past I’ve had fertility spells cast for me, carried crystals infused with fertility blessings & had entire rituals that used the collective energy of the group to send out my wishes into the universe. I think that because I wasn’t with the right partner that none of those things worked. It’s true that “Mother knows best.” as Mother Earth wasn’t prepared to bestow such a responsibility on me knowing that the right elements weren’t in place. Now I know that I’m with the right partner, have had some time to grow and feel truly ready. I’m hoping that someday soon I’ll realize my heart’s desire.



Lunar Energy

Last night as we raised our faces and our voices up to the shadowy light of the full moon hidden behind the clouds, I thought about the significance and mystery of lunar energy. All of the ways in which the moon influences and takes part in our everyday lives. I thought about the ebb and flow of the tides and how the moon holds sway over them. I thought of the people with me illuminated by the fire light locked arm in arm smiling at each other. I thought about cycles… the cycles of the moon, the cycles of life, of death and of menstrual cycles. I thought about the Goddess and the fullness of pregnancy. The beauty, the mystery and the power of the blessed moon.

It made me take inventory of all the ways the moon influences my life. Often dreading working on the full moon because the hospital is a prime spot for “lunacy” to take hold, it seemed that without fail, on full moon days it was always complete chaos in the hospital. Turning inward, I’d wonder if perhaps mother nature didn’t quite get the message to the moon that I was supposed to start my “moon time”. Maybe next month I’d say. It’s been that way now for close to 15 years… never knowing when or if I’ll experience it. Hoping someday to know what it is to be the cosmic vessel through which life is born. I hold out hope and rely on modern medicine to help me achieve some semblance of hormonal balance so that someday that gift will be mine.

The moon and the Goddess are associated with water for many reasons. The waters of the earth, the waters of the womb and emotions all evoke lunar energy. Tonight we called upon water alone to cleanse and tie us to the moon, as she is tied to the oceans. This was our 2nd Esbat, but our first full moon ritual together as a circle and it felt cleansing. It was short & simple, but it was nice to stand together and honor the mystery of the moon. Prior to gathering in the circle outside we met in the classroom for a discussion on moon magick and went over some of the basics: deities associated with the moon, moon cycles, moon phase correspondences for magical workings and interesting history about moon worship. I learned things I didn’t already know such as:

Rule of Thumb

The New Moon always rises at sunrise.

The First Quarter Moon always rises at noon.

The Full Moon always rises at sunset.

The Last Quarter Moon always rises at midnight.

Interesting, eh?

While Esbat ritual is new to our circle, it is not new to me. Several years ago I used to meet at a metaphysical shop in Northern California for Full Moon rites with The Red Raven clan. We’d sing, work magick and always end the night howling at the moon. During the years I was solitary, even though I didn’t have formal gatherings or rites, I would always take the time to howl at the moon. After we returned home from circle I set my moon blessed water outside to soak up more of the moonbeams power and howled, as I always have. As I laid down to fall asleep, the patter of raindrops began and it felt as though the element of water had definitely heard us. The soothing sound of cleansing water lulled me to sleep and I woke up feeling refreshed.